For four decades, I lived in constant confusion, walking on eggshells, second-guessing myself, and trying to be everything to someone I could never please.
No matter how hard I tried, the more I gave, the smaller I became, until I didn’t recognize myself anymore.
I didn’t know it then, but I was trapped in a cycle of narcissistic abuse and like so many survivors, I lost myself in the process.
I tried everything. Dozens of therapists, couples counselling, self-help books, medication, AL ANON meetings, yet nothing touched the deep exhaustion in my mind and body.
My health kept declining: weight gain, gut issues, anxiety, sleep apnoea, and self-medication with alcohol.
Half my life was gone.
I wasn’t living, I was surviving.
Then, while studying further at university, I discovered the emerging research on self-image, how the brain builds an internal picture of who we believe we are.
The truth is, your brain doesn’t respond to facts. It responds to belief.
That was the breakthrough, realizing the power to change my life wasn’t in the narcissist’s hands; it was in mine.
In that moment, I understood: they never controlled me.
My brain was simply running their story.
Narcissists don’t just control your behaviour, they control your belief about who you are.
Through gaslighting, criticism, and conditional love, they train your brain to doubt your own reality.
You stop trusting your emotions, your needs, and eventually, your sense of self.
Your brain forms your self-image and that inner picture shapes everything you think, feel, and do.
When I understood that, it was like discovering the code behind my life.
This realization changed everything.
I immersed myself in studying neuroplasticity, nervous system regulation, and identity rewiring, learning how to teach my body to feel safe and calm again.
Instead of relying on willpower, I used visualization, self-reconnection, and neuroplasticity tools to reshape my self-image and anchor a new identity by teaching my brain a new story about who I am.
Within 12 months, I had lost 30 kg, stopped drinking, left the narcissist and the job that drained me, and started my own business.
My sleep apnoea vanished. My gut issues disappeared.
And for the first time in my life, I wasn’t surviving anymore. I was free.
What began as sharing my insights on Instagram has evolved into a global movement of over 270,000 survivors, learning to recognize the hidden traits, cycles, and emotional coding caused by narcissistic abuse.
Combining my background in counselling, life coaching, and education, I created a private practice dedicated exclusively to survivors and from that, The Freedom Shift™ framework was born.
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Margi's approach is incredibly effective because of her unique Australian sensibility. Her empathetic, yet straightforward manner was refreshing and deeply impactful. Unlike other therapists I’ve worked with, Margi combines kindness with a clear understanding of personality disorders. Her ability to provide practical, actionable insights into narcissistic behaviour and offer compassionate support made a significant difference in my healing process.
-W.M.
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I wholeheartedly recommend Margi to anyone navigating trauma, personality disorders, or deep emotional challenges. Her compassionate presence, insightful guidance, and uniquely holistic approach have been truly life changing. Whether you're in the midst of healing or simply seeking meaningful personal growth, Margi’s support can help you find clarity, strength, and real, lasting change.
- B.W.
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I’ve worked with other coaches and counsellors before, but none have had the depth, clarity, and impact that Margi brings.
She helped me see exactly where I was, what needed healing, and most powerfully, where I was truly capable of going. Her insight goes deeper than anyone I’ve worked with, and her ability to hold space while guiding meaningful change is extraordinary.
Margi is truly in a league of her own.
- L.S.
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I appreciated Margi's approach to incredible deep listening, critical assessment, having a laser focus to the most impactful advice for me to propel my personal growth in my career and work. She was effective because she focused on very important areas of growth in the key areas of life I am striving to thrive. She broadened my self-awareness and boosted my confidence and self-esteem. She brought to my awareness target areas to work on for which I am grateful as I hadn't realized these issues myself.
- M.I.
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Working with Margi has been a turning point in my life. Her guidance helped me reconnect with what truly matters, my well-being, my values, and my vision for the future. With her support, I’ve learned to set meaningful goals, build authentic relationships, and pursue opportunities that feel aligned with who I really am. I now move forward with clarity, confidence, and a deep sense of purpose in both my personal and professional life.
- M.H.
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Working with Margi has been one of the best things that’s happened to me. These past few months have been an emotional rollercoaster, but with her support, I’ve learned how to face and move through those feelings, and it feels amazing on the other side.
My self-confidence has grown so much, and I’m finally starting to overcome the low self-esteem that held me back for so long. I’m expressing myself more clearly, applying for new roles at work, and actively contributing to leadership and team discussions, something I never thought I’d do.
Margi has helped me step into my full potential. I feel more content, capable, and empowered than ever before.
- Y.R.
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With Margi’s unwavering support, I’ve reclaimed my happiness, clarity, and emotional well-being. She helped guide me through one of the most difficult times in my life and showed me how to reconnect with my inner strength.
Through our work together, I’ve learned how to care for myself, trust my instincts, and live in alignment with who I truly am. The emotional healing and growth I’ve experienced have been life-changing.
If you’re ready to grow, heal, and truly understand yourself, coaching with Margi is one of the most powerful steps you can take.
- B.K.
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Rebuild emotional safety so you no longer walk on eggshells with yourself or others.
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Release survival patterns that keep you looping in fear, guilt, or self-blame.
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Reclaim your self-worth and identity after narcissistic abuse.
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Redefine boundaries and beliefs that align with your true self.
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Restore calm, confidence, and clarity as your natural way of being.
I know what it’s like to question your reality, your worth, and your voice.
You’ll never have to explain that to me - because I’ve lived it.
After forty years inside a narcissistic relationship, I rewired my brain, rebuilt my self-trust, and created a life filled with peace, respect, emotional intimacy, and unconditional love, the very things I once believed were impossible.
Now, I help others do the same.
⏳ SESSIONS:
Book an inital connection session to see if we are good fit (available worldwide).
📅 FREQUENCY:
Determine the frequency and time of your sessions. Most clients begin with weekly or fortnightly sessions for sustained progress.
🤝 SUPPORT:
You’ll receive personalized tools and integration practices to use between sessions.
❤️ CONFIDENTIALITY:
Every session is private and held in full emotional safety.
